Real Talk

Reflections

*Deep breath*

I’ve been going back and forth about posting this for days now and I’m annoying myself. It needs to be said. I’m worried that people will misunderstand and be offended but… it needs to be said. So Bismillah and here we go:

Writing is exhausting. There, I said it.

It’s draining and hard and sometimes, I just don’t want to do it.

Sometimes, I want a break. Sometimes, I need a break.

I love to write, I really really do. I appreciate that I have this little bit of skill. But that doesn’t stop writing from being my job. It fulfils me, yes. There’s a purpose behind it, yes. But it’s incredibly tiring and I don’t want it to rule my life.

Writing takes effort. I’d love to be able to just open up a laptop and vomit out words that come together to make a story but it’s not as simple as that. A writer immerses themselves in the skin of their characters to get their stories across and that takes more energy that you can imagine.

I guess what I’m trying to say is; appreciate the work that people are putting in and be understanding, especially when you’re getting to enjoy it entirely free of charge. Have a little patience and compassion for the fact that they’re also human.

Real Talk

I get sick sometimes – actually, I get sick a lot. Now, a lot of the time, I keep writing when I’m sick. But at other times, I don’t get to do that because of the demands of my body. And yes, I get that it sucks to be waiting for the next chapter of a story you like. You know what else sucks? Having to constantly apologize to people because you’re ill.

I’m fully aware that no one means any of this maliciously. You’re excited and you like the story. I appreciate that. But badgering someone is not okay. Making snide comments is not okay. I’ve stopped opening the comments section of my stories any more because reading those kinds of comments has gotten more and more upsetting as time goes by.

I haven’t said anything until now because I understand that you all mean well and I appreciate your support. But I’m really tired right now. So tired, in fact, that I may be on the verge of doing something drastic.

I don’t want to keep my stories to myself. I write them so that they can be read and enjoyed and, more importantly, so that they can start conversations and serve as a reminder that there are young girls and women out there who are going through the kinds of struggles that I write about all over the world.

But I’m really, really tired.

I’m not the type of writer who doesn’t appreciate constructive criticism – if you don’t like something I’m writing, you’re more than welcome to tell me (civilly) and I’ll actually appreciate that because it’s useful to me. I’m just saying – be a little kinder, guys. Please.

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17 thoughts on “Real Talk”

  1. Self love should be above every thing in your life.. First take care of yourself and then do the rest of the things. Because things only happen in the best way when u r in your best form..
    I haven’t read your blogs, this is the first blog of yours i have came across and i am going to read the story you write.. it seems so great! Good luck! And also take care.. :)💕

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  2. Assalamualikum…I started reading your stories and I’m hooked…loving them so far…don’t stress yourself out…whenever you are ready and well to write…we shall be patient…keeping you in my duas for good health and happiness….always…💜💜💜

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  6. Jazakillah dear author to atleast remove your time and inspire us with your skillfull writing.. appreciated…. can understand where you coming from.. ♡

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  7. Love your writing. Dont apologise if you can’t do things at times. You love what you do and we benefit from your work. Above all you come first. May you grow from strength to strength . Insha Allah ameen.

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  9. Yes! Yes yes yes!!! You took the words right out of my mouth ukhti. I feel exactly this way. Some days you want to write. The characters speak to you and the words flow. Others days…you just don’t. The mere thought of writing makes you tired. And people don’t understand that. They only think from the readers perspective,not from the writers. And humans are very impatient by nature. But if only they realised that it’s not as easy to write as it is to read. So yes,patience and support whether there’s a post or not would be greatly appreciated. I’ve gotten those comments as well(not many alhamdulillah) and it actually puts me off writing more than making me want to write. Supportive comments actually make the words flow more. So if readers want more posts they should be positive and supportive. Just saying✌🏻

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  10. Spot on!!
    Absolutely agree 💯. Totally understand the ill & writer parts.
    Please don’t pressure yourself to post on particular days & times..
    Health demands have no routine & every day is different. People SHOULD understand that & if not then I’ll shooo them away for you with bye bye lollll.

    I too would constantly apologize for late message responses & posts, in the end it leaves you feeling less worthier than you ough to be. Also trying my best to stop.

    All the way behind you dear 💙❤️
    May Allah embrace you with Aafiyah, shower ease & illuminate your path always. Aameen.

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